Been a while, and due to a friend’s request, I’d be listing some of the reasons why us ladies don’t want a commitment. This is with all fairness to my previous post Men’s Reasons (EXCUSES) for not wanting a Relationship With You.
Women are known for being fickle-minded, moody and choosy. But hey! These aren’t the only reasons why we don’t want to commit. Here’s a list of the few reasons I know:
1. Just enjoying the single life.
It’s not that she doesn’t like you or find you not so interesting. She might be enjoying your company so much but that’s not enough reason for her to let go of her singleness There are women who enjoys having no strings attached and contented with their life alone.
2. She’s literally NOT ready.
This is the most common reason why she won’t commit. This may be due to recent heartbreaks or being fed up with past relationships that don’t work. There may come someone who could mend the wounds of a broken heart but it couldn’t be the best solution to recompose oneself. Only time could do the trick 😉
3. She couldn’t decide.
Oh well, this goes to women with a pool of suitors lining up to win their hearts. There are just a lot of men with various good qualities and she want’s to make sure she gets to choose the best of them all. Just like that.
4. She knows too well
Being through a lot of heart aches makes some women cautious with every decisions they made. She might be through with the moving on stage and finally mingling with the opposite sex just like the old times but she’s too analytic and observant with all the pros and cons if ever she’ll enter another chapter of being in a relationship. Her instincts just know when it’ll work or not.
5. She’s contented with the way things are between you
Woah! You might just been put in the “friendzone” (HAHAHA, kidding!) or she’s just happy with how things are going on between the two of you. It might be because she’s afraid that when you put your “thing” in the next level, something might change which obviously she doesn’t want to happen. So instead she preserve everything by not committing with you. Sad aye? But, look at the bright side. She just want to keep you longer than a relationship could offer.
6. Picky! Picky! Picky!
Yeah! She’s just too picky! She likes you but she wants a handsome one. You’re handsome yet she’s longing for a sweeter one. She just can’t get enough. She wants an actual prince charming that only fairy tales have! The ideal guy that would sweep her off her feet. (Who’s unfortunately doesn’t exist.) Poor thang -____-
7. She wants a “SHE”
Oh! The bomb has just been dropped! She ain’t up for a boyfriend or a husband. Maybe she’s fed up with guys so you probably know what I mean. SADBOYS! HAHAHA
8. She’s waiting for someone else
This seems to be a painful reality. That some women won’t make themselves available for a new flame just because they have been patiently waiting for a “lucky” guy to commit to them. They’re patient enough to endure the burden of waiting and waiting until that guy is ready to be taken by her (which in most cases doesn’t really happen).
There you go! These are only a few of the reasons which I personally know. Women are complicated by nature but when they love, it’s deep, pure and true. If you could notice, some of the reasons why SHE won’t commit is due to heart breaks and previously failed relationship. When something so fragile was broken, it’s really hard to bounce back to how it was before. I’m not saying us girls are the only ones who suffer pain in loving.
We’re all equal in love but accept it or not, we’re emotionally weak compared to guys so pain changes us in a way that sometimes hold us back from trusting and welcoming someone new in our lives.
Bottom line, we all have our own reasons why we don’t want to commit. It’s better to settle or overcome all these reasons before entering a state that requires sharing ourselves to someone that we might be with for the rest of our lives.
♪♫ Why do we always hurt the ones we love. Why? ♫♪
A line from a song that always plays in my mind whenever I felt a sudden sting of loneliness within me. So again, why do hurt the ones we love?
Good thing if the one hurting you really loves you. At least you have the slightest reason to believe that maybe, he/she has just made a terrible mistake for bringing you pain and that love will eventually made him/her realize what he/she has done and will make it up to you. IDEAL setup aye?
But worst things worst, what if the person that brings you endless pain doesn’t feel even the tiniest bit of love for you? As if you’re no human entitled to feel the agony of every stitches and burn.
To where would you put yourself when the only paradise you believe in is within the hell that person builds around your world? Would you free yourself from imprisonment by the hope you hold on to that one day everything will be fine and that eventually all your sacrifices and felt pain will pay off and do you well?
Why do we all love to endure pain caused by people unworthy of the sanity that’s left in us?
HUMAN nature you may say. A cycle of never ending karma where the culprit is being betrayed by an Angel making the Angel the new culprit and so on and so forth
See how love, makes everybody mad almost about everything. Funny how this four-letter word could change a good heart to a hateful and destructive one.
Revenge was made known all because of LOVE.
When there’s LOVE there comes HATE.
When there’s LOVE there’s PAIN and SACRIFICES.
How come something so beautiful as LOVE has become the root of most evil life could offer us.
Yet we still longed for it, we still wanna feel it, we still search and fight for it. It has been considered one of the most powerful thing that revolves around everyone’s life.
How lovely it is to felt such wonderful feeling of Love without experiencing the hurtful stuffs that comes along with it.